Present your children with Value Awards to reinforce good choices.
During dinner on Friday, our family likes to conduct a value award presentation. We discuss a value and the efforts we made that week for trying to live that value. For example, one value award is the “Honesty Under Pressure” award. It is presented to someone who chose to be honest, especially when it was really difficult.
After telling stories from the week where we applied the value in our lives, each family member submits a secret vote for the person who they think should win the award (our rule is that they cannot vote for themselves). Dad “secretly” counts up all the votes and then we all drum roll with our hands. Dad stands up and announces “and the winner is …. !” The child comes to the head of the table and dad presents them with the award. The kids love it.
It was hard at first when someone didn’t win. Eventually they learned how to be better winners and losers. Unless we are focusing on a specific value, we usually include more than one award so there are multiple ways to be recognized living with values. Our children love taping the award to their door for the week. On Friday, we gather the awards up and reuse them again. It is a constant reminder of the values we are trying to teach our children.
Here are some of the awards we routinely use:
- Honesty Under Pressure – For those times in our life where we chose to be honest, even though it was a real challenge.
- The Peace Award – For acts of peacability; Not losing your temper, not retaliating when someone hurt you, able to explain why someone might have done a hurtful thing.
- The Service Award – For acts of service during the week where I saw a need and was able to help.
- Leader for the Right Award – For acts of courage; choosing the right, even when no one else is choosing the right. Saying no to someone encouraging you to do something wrong, dangerous, or harmful. Trying to talk someone out of doing something wrong, dangerous, or harmful
- Self-Starter Award – For acts of initiative; Accomplishing a task without being asked or reminded. Doing more than was asked or going the extra mile. Making a goal for the day or week and accomplishing it.
Download our version of these awards and several more value awards now.
We picked up this idea from Teaching Your Children Values. This book is filled with many effective ideas that we regularly include in Family Home Evening.