Celebrate your goals in a positive way. Remember, “When performance is measured, performance improves. When performance is measured and reported, the rate of improvement accelerates” (see Thomas S. Monson, in Conference Report, Oct. 1970, 107).
We love goals. Our children are coming around to the idea of loving them too. In earlier posts we’ve shared why we set goals and how we set goals. We focus on setting goals three times each year. This lesson shares one way to celebrate goal setting accomplishments.
- Opening Song: Improve the Shining Moments Hymn #226
- Have each family member review their goals and think about accomplishments.
A few weeks ago our Branch President taught me something important about goals. He shared his testimony about the annual branch goals. He reviewed many important accomplishments of our branch members over the year. He told us he was proud of our efforts and knew they brought great results.
The progress towards our branch goals were tallied on a poster board in the hallway. The results showed we fell short of our Branch goals, but the Branch President gave us credit anyways. He believed many people were too humble and they didn’t consider all their efforts worthy enough to report. He said it was likely we accomplished our branch goals.
The fact is, I don’t think we were even half way to reaching the goals according to our tracking sheet. Some of the categories showed very little movement at all. When he began talking about the branch goals, I squirmed a little in my seat because I wasn’t sure I did my part.
But then a wonderful thing happened. When he spoke about all our accomplishments and spoke so positively of our efforts, I remembered the things I did during the year. I received warm feelings. Maybe I didn’t hand out enough Book of Mormons, but I did hand some out and they were well received.
Our Branch President did not need to point out what we could have done better to complete our goals. Satan, the great accuser, helps us recognize failure just fine. Even without Satan, we can do an honest assessment and see areas we can improve. When the Branch President spoke warmly of our accomplishments, I was able to better remember all we accomplished and realize we had increased our talents instead of burying them. I also felt a strong desire to try harder on our next set of goals.
From this experience, I learned we need to celebrate our efforts to accomplish goals. So for family home evening we had a “Goal Party”. Here is the pattern we used and it worked wonderfully.
Talk about goals with a gospel perspective. Heavenly Father is a planner and we are here with a very important purpose. Goals help us develop talents and give direction to our lives. Jesus Christ came to this earth with a plan and His life was filled with meaningful work serving others.
Take turns sharing accomplishments. Have each person stand up and share some of the things they accomplished as part of their goals. Try expressing how lives were blessed and the way they are different than before. You may have to help children recognize these changes. Just remember to be positive.
Don’t highlight failure. Remind everyone to avoid discussing failure, unless it was an important and positive testimony building experience. We didn’t want anyone to emphasize whether they completed a goal or fell short. Self-reflection is an important skill to learn, but not during this goal party.
Get excited and make some noise. As each person in our family took turns sharing their accomplishments, we cheered and clapped for each other and provided accolades. Be sure to share excitement about the opportunity to set new goals and try again.
Have some FHE fun! We finished the Goal Party with treats and favorite family games. There was popcorn, candy, puppy chow, and pineapple Fanta. The kids loved it!
How does your family celebrate accomplishments? Be sure to share your ideas in the comments below or on Facebook.
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